Friday, January 23, 2009

5 Infidelity Trends that Will Jeopardize Your Relationship, and What You Can Do

I can’t stress strongly enough that infidelity can happen to anyone at any time. No one is immune.

There are several emerging infidelity trends on the horizon that you should be aware of if you want to safeguard your marriage or relationship.

Below are five infidelity trends you should be concerned about, followed by some precautions you should take.

5 Emerging Infidelity Trends

1. Female infidelity has increased 50% and is rapidly approaching the rate of male infidelity.

2. Internet-assisted infidelity is now responsible for 1/3 of all divorces.

3. Because many people underestimate the danger of emotional infidelity and cyber affairs, many of these affairs are being ignored, thus enabling them to evolve into sexual infidelity.

4. Workplace infidelity stemming from work spouse relationships will destroy numerous marriages/relationships.

5. Because many people mistakenly assume they know how to spot the signs of infidelity, numerous affairs will go undetected until it’s too late to do anything about them.

How to Safeguard Your Marriage or Relationship

1. Since most female infidelity is preventable, keep your finger on the pulse of your relationship. If your wife or girlfriend expresses dissatisfaction with you or your relationship, don’t treat it lightly.

2. Cyber infidelity, online infidelity, internet infidelity – whatever term you use - poses a serious threat to any marriage or relationship. Be aware of what your spouse or significant other is doing online when you think they are innocently surfing the net.

3. Don’t underestimate the danger of non-sexual forms of ( cyber or emotional) infidelity. If you suspect that it’s going on, take positive action before it’s too late.

4. Take precautions to keep work spouse relationships from turning into workplace affairs. You and your mate should keep each other in the loop, and avoid becoming emotionally dependent on your work husband or work wife.

5. Educate yourself about the subtle signs infidelity. Relying on the classic or so called “top 10 signs of infidelity will only guarantee that you’ll be the last to know. Invest in a good infidelity reference book to help you spot the subtle telltale signs of infidelity that may be staring you in the face. Knowing what to look for is the key.

One Infidelity Book That Can Help

Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs covers practically every known sign of infidelity, including the subtle signs people usually overlook. Despite the book’s title, most of the signs in it apply both cheating woman and cheating men. All the signs of infidelity in Is He Cheating on You? are grouped into 21 major categories, so you can easily find the signs that apply to your marriage or your mate. Each category contains from 19 to 92 telltale signs.

Often described as a cheater’s worst nightmare, Is He Cheating on You? can help detect almost any type of infidelity, including female infidelity, cyber infidelity, emotional infidelity, workplace infidelity and more.

For more information about Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs, visit http://ishecheatingonyou.blogspot.com/ (or click here to buy a copy now)

FREE Tip Sheet on the 21 Categories of Infidelity Signs

For a free tip sheet which describes each of the 21 Categories of Infidelity Signs and gives the number of signs in each category e-mail InfidelityInfo@gmail.com with the words 21 categories –btr in the subject line.


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Thursday, January 22, 2009

4 Emerging Infidelity Trends to Keep an Eye on This Year

I always keep up with the latest developments relating to infidelity and extramarital affairs.

Especially since, as an infidelity expert, I’m frequently called on by the media to comment on infidelity issues in the news. I’ve been researching infidelity for the past 15 years.

As a result, I’ve identified four infidelity trends that I feel will have a major impact on many marriages and committed relationship this year.

1. work spouse infidelity

2. internet-assisted infidelity

3. media-motivated infidelity

4. empty-nest infidelity


Let’s take a closer look at each of these four trends.

WORK SPOUSE INFIDELITY

I predict that we’ll see a significant increase in work spouse infidelity - workplace affairs which are an outgrowth of the work husband/work wife, relationships which many people consider to be harmless.

In a survey conducted by Randstad USA, 53% of women and 42% of men said they had a work or office spouse – a workmate with whom they share a relationship similar to marriage – but without the sex.

For almost two years now, I’ve been sounding the alarm that work spouse relationships are not as benign as they may seem. Research in this area is still relatively new. But as more studies are conducted on the long-term effects of work spouse relationships, it will become apparent that they’re not so harmless after all. Today’s work spouse relationship can quickly turn into tomorrow’s workplace affair.

Work spouse relationships are closely akin to emotional infidelity. If left unchecked -- if certain precautions aren’t put into place -- they can progress to sexual infidelity. All that’s required for a work spouse relationship to become work spouse infidelity is sexual attraction, secrecy, and opportunity.

Opportunity is the catalyst that takes a work spouse relationship to the next level. That opportunity can occur in the form of business travel, working late, company-sponsored social events, or work spouses socializing with each other without the presence of their respective mates.

When a work spouse relationship turns into a work spouse affair, the dual (sexual/emotional) bond that results will undermine the marriage or committed relationship of the two work spouses involved.

INTERNET-ASSISTED INFIDELITY

The internet now ties with the workplace as the #1 place where cheating men and cheating women find partners with whom to have extramarital affairs.

In almost every episode of infidelity, the internet is involved in some way – either to initiate, facilitate, or maintain the illicit affair.

Cyber cheating, or online affairs represent a whole new category of infidelity. According to statistics, 30% of these internet affairs graduate from cyberspace and become real world affairs.

There are websites where any type of extramarital alliance can be arranged, from a one night stand to a long-term affair.

Through e-mail, chat rooms, and instant messaging, the internet even helps affair partners stay in touch.

The internet has changed the way cheating spouses and significant others seek out a mate. Gone are the days when the cheater had to physically leave home and risk embarrassment or discovery in search of an affair partner. There are adult dating sites that exist solely for the purpose of connecting married men and women with others who want to have affairs.

Today, a potential cheater can conduct a full scale search for a like-minded partner from the comfort and privacy of his own home. His unsuspecting spouse could be present in the same room. The internet provides cheaters of both sexes with unlimited access to an endless array of willing partners from all over the world.

The would-be cheater, who in the past may have simply fantasized about having an affair without ever acting on those thoughts, can now test-drive infidelity online until he’s confident enough to go full speed ahead. The internet has removed all the risk.

MEDIA-MOTIVATED INFIDELITY

Infidelity will continue to be a hot topic in the media. It’s a dominant theme in movies, soap operas, TV talk shows, magazine /newspaper articles, and novels. Infidelity has become a form of entertainment – a spectator sport. Witness the popularity of the reality TV show, Cheaters.

There will continue to be widespread coverage of cheaters from every walk of life – from presidents, politicians, celebrities, and sports stars, to the guy next door. Because people are constantly seeing, hearing, or reading about infidelity, they are already beginning to view infidelity as the norm. A recent Gallup poll revealed that 54% of people personally know a married person who is cheating on his or her mate.

As the media continues to publicize, dramatize, sensationalize, and glamorize infidelity, young and old alike will be influenced by what they see. The public’s collective curiosity will be piqued, and many people will want to experience the excitement, or join in the “fun”.

EMPTY NEST INFIDELITY

I predict that there will also be a marked increase in what I call “empty nest infidelity.” – infidelity among baby boomers whose children have married, gone off to college, or have left home to be on their own. Statistics are already showing an increase in infidelity among this age group in general.

With the children gone, these baby boomer couples will realize that they’ve drifted apart, and now have little or nothing in common with each other. These marriages are ripe for an affair, and “empty nest infidelity” will occur.

Given the current state of the economy, many of these baby boomer couples who have grown apart will find themselves financially challenged, and unable to afford a divorce.

Other boomer couples who can afford divorce will decide not to go that route because of strong family or financial ties. Or they may be unwilling to give up their current lifestyle, forfeit their social status, or deal with the complications of starting over at this stage of their life.

Many boomer couples who find themselves in one of the above situations will continue to live together under the same roof, but will enter into extramarital affairs, without their spouse’s knowledge, or by mutual consent.

Interview Infidelity Expert Ruth Houston about Infidelity Trends

These are just four of the emerging trends in infidelity that I predict will influence marriage and relationships this year.

There are several other emerging infidelity trends, as well.

If you’d like to schedule an interview to further discuss these and other emerging infidelity trends (or any other infidelity-related topic) please contact me at 718 592-6039 or e-mail InfidelityExpert@gmail.com

For more information on infidelity, cheating spouses, and extramarital affairs, please visit one of the sister sites below:

http://infidelitynewsandviews.blogspot.com/

http://www.InfidelityAdvice.com

http://ishecheatingonyou.blogspot.com/


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Friday, January 2, 2009

4 Infidelity Trends to Watch in 2009

As an infidelity expert, I’m frequently called on by the media to comment on popular infidelity issues and infidelity-related breaking news. So I’m constantly monitoring and analyzing the latest development in this field. I’ve been researching infidelity for the past 15 years.

Below are four infidelity trends which I’ve identified that I feel will have a major impact on marriages and committed relationship in 2009 and beyond.

work spouse infidelity

internet-assisted infidelity

media-motivated infidelity

empty-nest infidelity

Work Spouse Infidelity

I predict that we’ll see a significant increase in work spouse infidelity - workplace affairs which are an outgrowth of the work husband/work wife, relationships which many people consider to be harmless.

In a survey conducted by Randstad USA, 53% of women and 42% of men said they had a work or office spouse – a workmate with whom they share a relationship similar to marriage – but without the sex.

For almost two years now, I’ve been sounding the alarm that work spouse relationships are not as benign as they may seem. Research in this area is still relatively new. But as more studies are conducted on the long-term effects of work spouse relationships, it will become apparent that they’re not so harmless after all. Today’s work spouse relationship can quickly turn into tomorrow’s workplace affair.

Work spouse relationships are closely akin to emotional infidelity. If left unchecked -- if certain precautions aren’t put into place -- they can progress to sexual infidelity. All that’s required for a work spouse relationship to become work spouse infidelity is sexual attraction, secrecy, and opportunity.

Opportunity is the catalyst that takes a work spouse relationship to the next level. That opportunity can occur in the form of business travel, working late, company-sponsored social events, or work spouses socializing with each other without the presence of their respective mates.

When a work spouse relationship turns into a work spouse affair, the dual (sexual/emotional) bond that results will undermine the marriage or committed relationship of the two work spouses involved.

Internet-Assisted Infidelity

The internet now ties with the workplace as the #1 place where cheating men and cheating women find partners with whom to have extramarital affairs.

In almost every episode of infidelity, the internet is involved in some way – either to initiate, facilitate, or maintain the illicit affair.

Cyber cheating, or online affairs represent a whole new category of infidelity. According to statistics, 30% of these internet affairs graduate from cyberspace and become real world affairs.

There are websites where any type of extramarital alliance can be arranged, from a one night stand to a long-term affair.

Through e-mail, chat rooms, and instant messaging, the internet even helps affair partners stay in touch.

The internet has changed the way cheating spouses and significant others seek out a mate. Gone are the days when the cheater had to physically leave home and risk embarrassment or discovery in search of an affair partner. There are adult dating sites that exist solely for the purpose of connecting married men and women with others who want to have affairs.

Today, a potential cheater can conduct a full scale search for a like-minded partner from the comfort and privacy of his own home. His unsuspecting spouse could be present in the same room. The internet provides cheaters of both sexes with unlimited access to an endless array of willing partners from all over the world.

The would-be cheater, who in the past may have simply fantasized about having an affair without ever acting on those thoughts, can now test-drive infidelity online until he’s confident enough to go full speed ahead. The internet has removed all the risk.

Media-Motivated Infidelity

Infidelity will continue to be a hot topic in the media. It’s a dominant theme in movies, soap operas, TV talk shows, magazine /newspaper articles, and novels. Infidelity has become a form of entertainment – a spectator sport. Witness the popularity of the reality TV reality Cheaters.

There will continue to be widespread coverage of cheaters from every walk of life – from presidents, politicians, celebrities, and sports stars, to the guy next door. Because people are constantly seeing, hearing, or reading about infidelity, they are already beginning to view infidelity as the norm. A recent Gallup poll revealed that 54% of people personally know a married person who is cheating on his or her mate.

As the media continues to publicize, dramatize, sensationalize, and glamorize infidelity, young and old alike will be influenced by what they see. The public’s collective curiosity will be piqued, and many people will want to experience the excitement, or join in the “fun”.

Empty Nest Infidelity

I predict that there will also be a marked increase in what I call “empty nest infidelity.” – infidelity among baby boomers whose children have married, gone off to college, or have left home to be on their own. Statistics are already showing an increase in infidelity among this age group in general.

With the children gone, these baby boomer couples will realize that they’ve drifted apart, and now have little or nothing in common with each other. These marriages are ripe for an affair, and “empty nest infidelity” will occur.

Given the current state of the economy, many of these baby boomer couples who have grown apart will find themselves financially challenged, and unable to afford a divorce.

Other boomer couples who can afford divorce will decide not to go that route because of strong family or financial ties. Or they may be unwilling to give up their current lifestyle, forfeit their social status, or deal with the complications of starting over at this stage of their life.

Many boomer couples who find themselves in one of the above situations will continue to live together under the same roof, but will enter into extramarital affairs, without their spouse’s knowledge, or by mutual consent.

Interview Infidelity Expert Ruth Houston about Infidelity Trends

These are just four of the emerging trends in infidelity that I predict will influence marriage and relationships in the year 2009 and beyond.

I’ve also identified several other emerging infidelity trends, as well.

If you’d like to set up an interview to further discuss emerging infidelity trends for 2009, or any other infidelity-related topic, please contact me at 718 592-6039 or e-mail InfidelityExpert@gmail.com

For more information on infidelity, cheating spouses, and extramarital affairs, please visit one of the sister sites below:

http://infidelitynewsandviews.blogspot.com/

http://www.infidelityadvice.com/

http://ishecheatingonyou.blogspot.com/


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